Avoidance Never Pays

Published on October 3, 2016 by arothstein

Making the decision to attend college is a big one. In addition to getting your degree, you are making a conscious choice to join the ranks of the highly educated. As an educated individual, you are expected to handle situations as a mature adult. Unfortunately, one of the expectations that you will be held to is that you will handle issues with which you are faced in a timely and direct manner. Avoiding situations that make you uncomfortable, that are embarrassing, that are costly, or that are just unpleasant is not an option for someone that has other individuals relying on them in a business setting, and you will be expected to exhibit to others that you are willing to address situations that are less than ideal.

In most instances, when individuals choose to avoid their problems, the problems do not go away. Instead, the problems get bigger. The failure of the individual to stop the problem in its tracks allows it to fester and allows time for more individuals to get involved in the problem, which can have devastating consequences. There are few circumstances in life that only affect one person, so when you choose to avoid a situation, others are greatly affected, as well.

Instead of avoiding a negative situation, you should gather your strength and “eat the frog.” One of the best ways to tackle a tough situation is to identify the exact problem that you have to handle. Instead of thinking of it in a big, abstract way, summarize what you have to do into one sentence. For example, “I have to complete my 20-page paper for this course in three weeks along with my 12 other assignments and a full-time job.” Or “I have to pay tuition in three months, but it is also my anniversary cruise, so I am going to need extra money.” Identifying the exact problem you have to face can be very satisfying. It will also allow you to sort the parts of the problem you can control and the ones that you cannot. For example, you can’t control the date of your anniversary, the date of your cruise, or the cost of tuition, but you can control your income

Once you have identified the part of the problem you can control, you can look for ways to handle it. For purposes of the example, you can look for side jobs for extra money. You can go through your closet and find items to place on consignment. You can have a yard sale. You can work a seasonal job. Because you know exactly what part of the problem you can address, you can make a plan to fix it.

It is stressful to think about dealing with an overwhelming issue, but it can be even more stressful to pretend like the issue doesn’t exist. Even when your conscious mind isn’t focused on the issue, you know it is there, and it can lead to great stress and anxiety. Handle the things that stress you out the most first, and you will find yourself much happier in life.

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